The clock carries on ticking and life moves on.
A life without Lennon.
Whatever I do, it is always with Lennon at the forefront of my mind. He is still my first thought when I awake to a new day and my last thought before I fall asleep.
Sleep has not been my friend for the last few weeks though. I lie awake having flashbacks of the days leading up to and after Lennon’s death. When I finally do fall asleep I toss and turn and wake up crying.
Quite a lot has happened over the last couple of months.
I have a part time job for the NHS in Urgent Care. It’s only 10 hours a week at the weekends but I have found it to be a welcome distraction from my grief – I don’t feel so sad when my mind is occupied.
My blog won a BAPS (Bloody Awesome Parents) award for ‘Best Newcomer’. The very gorgeous Gethin Jones presented me with my award and I cannot tell you how surprised I was! Ian and I had a lovely evenings amongst families who also walk a similar path to us.
I assisted in delivering a petition to Number 10 on behalf of The Disabled Children’s Partnership.
I met with Nadhim Zahari, the Minister of State for Children, Young People and Families. I was lucky enough to talk to him about the lack of care for complex children who fall in the gap between health and social care. And how there needs to be clear guidance on which body is responsible for them.
Isla won ‘The Hinton award’ at school – an award given to the KS2 pupil who has shown real grit and determination to overcome challenges throughout the year. I am overwhelmingly proud of her, she’s had such a tough year.
Two of our Nascot Lawn families featured on BBC1 Panorama – the programme and an online version. It made difficult viewing for Ian and I. We were taken back to the extraordinary life we led with Lennon and it was a stark reminder of just how different and ordinary life is now.
Lennon’s school held a memorial morning for Lennon and unveiled the most perfect art display dedicated to him and his love of swimming. The whole morning was so well thought out and planned, with Lennon’s teachers singing and playing guitar – Lennon loved it when Nathan played his guitar! It felt comforting to return to Lennon’s favourite place and see all the staff again. I was so pleased to hear that they still think and talk about Lennon everyday, he is still very much a part of the school.
The amazing charity Post Pals invited us on a weekend away to Chessington. It was a fun packed weekend and the girls thoroughly enjoyed it. We had the most amazing experience feeding giraffes and discovered that Florence is almost as much of a thrill seeker as her brother after insisting on going on the Vampire ride multiple times!
Better Removals are naming one of their new removal vans ‘Lennon’ in memory of our little soldier.
And I have given a few talks on my life and experiences as a Carer and mum to Lennon and really enjoyed it – I could talk about Lennon all day everyday!
Blogging and campaigning for Nascot Lawn and disabled children has given me a purpose since Lennon died. I would give anything to have my old life back with him. That wish will never come true, but the next best thing is to share Lennon’s experiences in life, with the aim of educating others to help improve the lives of children similar to Lennon.
Lennon’s journey can educate countless people and change so many lives. Now he is not here, it is my job to share Lennon’s story and help others to learn from him.
A future without Lennon feels totally unbearable to me, despite not seeing him for almost year. But I need to find a way to survive the rest of my life, and the only way that seems possible at the moment is to keep Lennon’s memory alive in any way possible.
I still have moments when I wish that I could ‘jump off’ this ride, just for a minute to catch my breath. This year has gone way too quickly. Tears spring to my eyes and a lump appears in my throat at the mere thought of it being a whole year since Lennon was encapsulated inside our little family.
This week we will travel down to Torquay as a family of four, but we know Lennon will be with us in spirit. Our last family holiday was summer 2016 in Torquay – I’ll never forget how much Lennon enjoyed it and how much fun we all had. The weather was glorious and we managed to get Lennon into the sea. Believe me it wasn’t easy and we narrowly avoided an adrenal crisis from the cold water but it was worth it just to have those memories to hold on to now.
Ian and the girls don’t want to be at home on the anniversary of Lennon’s death. They don’t want to remember the hurt, shock and deep sadness we felt in the weeks after Lennon died. They don’t want to return to the darkness we all endured.
I have to respect their wishes and needs. The next best place to home is Torquay and the warmth of all the happy memories it holds. Lennon was always so content and relaxed at the coast. His little face always glowed in the sunshine.
I have no expectations for the day. I hope to be able to get out of bed, dressed and out of the flat and give my girls a good day.
A day that Lennon would of enjoyed.
A day we can reminisce over the amazing memories we have of Lennon, our little soldier.